Practice of Being Seen Rebecca Wong

My colleagues Jules and Vickey and I just launched a new podcast and I am super excited to share it with you, so I'm sharing it here!!
In this trailer, we're sharing the story of how we met, how we've come to work together, how this podcast came to be, and what you can expect in future episodes. We're calling this podcast Why Does My Partner (or Why Doesn't My Partner, it's interchangeable) because these are the questions we hear over and over again in our offices. We believe these questions lead to the GOLD of relational healing and the answers under these questions will bring us deep into the skills at the heart of deeper relational intimacy, greater health, and fulfillment.
Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com!
If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at WhyDoesMyPartner.com
This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

Hello Friends!  I've archived this show and have started a new podcast that I wanted to make sure you knew about. I'd love for you to check out the Connectfulness Practice podcast, now available on your favorite podcast platform. 

After you listen to a few episodes, I’d be grateful if you could leave an honest rating and review in iTunes of how the podcast supports your journey. 
Join the Connectfulness® Community for deeper discussions. And follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.


GRATITUDES:
Christy Haussler and my behind the scenes podcasting team. Sarah and Chris Faris and Kidneystone Studio for our delicious soundtrack music. And our new cover-art design by Blue Rabbit Studios with photo by Craig Strahorn.

This is a special conversation about making a pivot in your business in order to get closer to what you’re meant to do. Annie and I each get personal about the pivots we’re each moving through and we talk about the retreat we’re hosting in 2019 for YOU.
 
Topics Discussed In This Episode:
 
Owning the work you’re best at Revisioning your business Thinking about your body of work and what legacy you’re creating Mindset issues is that come up when you push the boundaries of your business The Signature Heart And Soul Business Retreat: A retreat for entrepreneurs who are expanding and stepping into bigger leadership: https://connectfulness.com/signature-retreat Letting go of what’s no longer working in your business The process of rebranding during a pivot (both Annie and Rebecca’s experiences) Rebecca’s pivot to Connectfulness (https://connectfulness.com/) Annie’s pivot to Rebel Therapist (https://rebeltherapist.me/)
 
 
Resources Discussed:
Join us for two FREE virtual retreats that offer a small taste of the kind of transformative work that will happen over the four days of our Signature Retreat: 
 
Change Your Relationship With Imposter Syndrome on 12/14/2018  https://connectfulness.com/events/imposter-syndrome
 
What's Your Most Powerful Leadership Style? on 2/20/2019 https://connectfulness.com/events/leadership-style
 
 
Listen above or on your favorite podcast platform.

There is something for all of us to take away and learn from this conversation. Every single one of us gets to pause and learn who we are in relationships with ourselves and who we are and how we show up in relationships with others and we also have to pause and learn our partners and loved ones. 
 
April Snow is an Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in downtown San Francisco. She believes thriving as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) a matter of knowing yourself and making adjustments to care for your unique temperament. If you’ve been listening for some time, you may recall April joined us to open our Highly Sensitive Series back on episode 57. She’s returned to dive even deeper and answer listener questions and curiosities around the Highly Sensitive Trait. 
 
We’re talking about the ways the highly sensitive trait and trauma, especially in a dysregulated state, can overlay. We dive deeply into discussion around the development of one’s inner voice. We ask big questions like: “where do you shine?” and “what parts of yourself do you sacrifice in service of others?”
 
Resources:
expansiveheart.com  
Sensitivetherapist.com
HSP Adult Self-Test
The full HSP series on the #POBScast
Working With Rebecca:
Dive deeper with Rebecca while helping to support production of the #POBScast when you join our Wild Woman Discussion Groups; we meet online through September 2018. 
 
Learn more about Rebecca’s relationship therapy practice and intensive couples retreat in NY go to connectfulness.com
 
Join the #POBScast Community practiceofbeingseen.com/community
For more information and resources, visit the website at practiceofbeingseen.com.
 
To join the conversation on social media, use the hashtag #POBScast.
You can find us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.
 
If you have questions or inquiries, email us at practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com

Many people feel that they can’t be themselves in relationship, either because of society’s pressure on them to be and act a certain way, or the pressure they feel from a significant other who demands them to be something other than their true self. In this episode we’re talking about Releasing Shame & Reclaiming Desire with Arielle Brown so that our intimate relationships can allow for more alignment between our inner self and our outer reality.
 
Arielle is a Relationship Coach and Intimacy Educator based in the San Francisco Bay area. She helps visionaries craft intimate relationships with conscious design so they can truly bring their voice and their impact into the world. She says the key is connecting and communicating our desires in ways that release shame and self-doubt and transmit our gifts.
 
Gender conditioning is one of the obstacles all of us face. We can’t share our gifts when we live with the fear of losing love and having to fit ourselves into “boxes of appropriateness.” Often women believe they need shape themselves into something they’re not. Arielle asks the question, “Who am I and how do I release the fear of how other people perceive me?” She says that doing this kind of work is the only way we can change the current culture around relationships and intimacy.
 
Arielle shares her personal journey; filled with negative body image, sexual obsessions, an unhealthy relationship with food and emotionally abusive and toxic relationships with men. Her personal transformation journey has been filled with learning true intimacy and sexual healing practices. Her healing work centers on helping people figure out where they are carrying underlying beliefs that undermine the power we seek to embrace and cultivate; which leads to liberating what society teaches you to shut down and conform.
 
Our conversation also covers simple and practical ways to play with relationship in ways that allow for full expression of self. We discuss how to find balance between controlling desires and the art of being in command of them. Arielle shares her approach to communicate openly and shift dynamics around sexual intimacy. 
 
Connecting deeper and exploring intimacy requires self-love and compassion---
we all need more of that.
 
Resources:
 
www.ariellebrown.com
APPETITE is Arielle’s 6-Week Virtual Course for Women Reclaiming the Purity of their Desire, beginning on August 15th, 2018! 
Find Arielle on Facebook!

In this episode, we're focusing on the experiences of immigrants and people of a color in therapy.
 
My guest, John Edwards, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Gottman Method Couples’ Therapist in Oakland, CA, with over 28 years in practice. John’s an immigrant from the Caribbean and a gay black man, these personal experiences help him relate to clients who feel marginalized or unheard in society. He knows that there isn’t just ONE way for relationships to work and that everyone has a different story, no matter where they began. 
 
Couples and families of color have to face issues of racism, sexism, and complicated relationship issues in ways unknown to white people. John sees this in his practice and highlights why the majority of therapists don’t understand or relate to the experience of an immigrant or a racial minority. 
 
John shares how deep-seated wounds from childhood can play into relationship issues and how we perceive even the most innocuous words and actions. In his work as a Gottman Method therapist, he has learned skills needed to actually listen and hear what his clients say, and these same skills that are useful especially in couples’ work are what our world needs today. 
 
And do stay tuned for Rebecca’s news about the future direction of the POBScast at the end of the show.